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Sunday, March 29, 2009?
Hehe.. today we celebrate those kids who are born in March. Actual day 29 March are Andre, my cutie and Joyce, my baobei. Joyce is so funny, she shake hand with me because it is her birthday. Then share with me how she celebrate at home wahaha.
Erin today was very emo... she pull a long face the whole morning. I ask Aunt Joy y? She say Erin scolded by her mummy. LOL. Erin is 3 yrs old and know how to feel emotional hurt. WOW. Erika as usual happy go lucky haha she still 2 yrs old only la. That Ethan hor.. too much le.. grow up to 6 yrs old le don't want take picture with me le. Gone are the days which he was still small and always willing to take picture with me =( Anyway we are still very close. I told him I am going to Bible School tomorrow. He look at me and ask "what is a bible school" I say is a place where everyday I can see ur daddy. LOL... he laugh.
Tomorrow SOT le. Finally the day has come... I am feeling very hungry now because I fast the whole day le. 1 hour to go to 7pm and I can start eating hehe =)
I receive this notice just now.
WHAT TO TAKE NOTE OF AS CHILDREN’S CHURCH TEACHERS
“DO”
1. Be sensitive to needs especially newcomers. Note that sometimes the children may have had a bad day
2. Inform your Service IC of any discipline issues; don’t cover it up or keep to yourself
3. Always be composed, even if a child is rude to you or raised his voice at you. Stay calm and deal with the facts objectively. Don't react but respond.
4. Remember you are an example to others especially the children. They do repeat what you said to their parents
5. Take time to hear yourself; don't be quick to speak
6. If any parent seek your advice on how to discipline their child, remember state you are not a professional but your opinions are your own and you are giving suggestions to help. Or that you may help them to check
7. As far as is possible, when disciplining a child, bring him/her aside and not discipline child in front of the other children.
“DO NOT”
1. Be too casual or familiar with the children and treat them as you would your peers (Apply to me. LOL)
2. Use terms like “shucks” or “shag” (these terms carry other meanings)
3. Discipline any child when the service is over such that child’s parent has to wait for you to finish
4. Be emotional, shout or physically manhandle any child even when they misbehave
5. Demean any child, be rude or discipline out of anger and say things like “You got attitude problem, is it?”, “You are such a naughty child”, “I feel like 'killing' you”
6. Complain or give feedback to parents of child’s misbehaviour (unless there was a fight or an accident & a child was injured)
Generally, even if any child misbehaves, please do not be found wanting in your conduct as a teacher.
Remember the church is to be a happy place for every child.
“DO”
1. Be sensitive to needs especially newcomers. Note that sometimes the children may have had a bad day
2. Inform your Service IC of any discipline issues; don’t cover it up or keep to yourself
3. Always be composed, even if a child is rude to you or raised his voice at you. Stay calm and deal with the facts objectively. Don't react but respond.
4. Remember you are an example to others especially the children. They do repeat what you said to their parents
5. Take time to hear yourself; don't be quick to speak
6. If any parent seek your advice on how to discipline their child, remember state you are not a professional but your opinions are your own and you are giving suggestions to help. Or that you may help them to check
7. As far as is possible, when disciplining a child, bring him/her aside and not discipline child in front of the other children.
“DO NOT”
1. Be too casual or familiar with the children and treat them as you would your peers (Apply to me. LOL)
2. Use terms like “shucks” or “shag” (these terms carry other meanings)
3. Discipline any child when the service is over such that child’s parent has to wait for you to finish
4. Be emotional, shout or physically manhandle any child even when they misbehave
5. Demean any child, be rude or discipline out of anger and say things like “You got attitude problem, is it?”, “You are such a naughty child”, “I feel like 'killing' you”
6. Complain or give feedback to parents of child’s misbehaviour (unless there was a fight or an accident & a child was injured)
Generally, even if any child misbehaves, please do not be found wanting in your conduct as a teacher.
Remember the church is to be a happy place for every child.
Grace and Peace 5:38 PM
Saturday, March 28, 2009?
或許你對中國歷史上的康熙皇帝有些瞭解；
或許你也是康熙來了電視節目的忠實觀眾；
但是今天要介紹給你另外一個「康希」！
康希來了!!
Grace and Peace 1:14 PM
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1 2 3 YES. Wow... what a night! I just came home from my 1st ever Men Meeting! 1 word to describe - Speechless... but a bit wield because no ladies around to see... haha. Is all men! I was thankful that I can seat at the 4th row. It was a great meeting. Pastor Phil mention about a few things I will like to share which i find very impacting to me.- When men has trails, it is because God is wanting to wake up the "mighty man" inside of the men!
- Men should resume responsibility and be a great problem solver
- Be a mighty men because we hang around mighty man!
- THE CHURCH NEED STRONG AND MIGHTY MEN!!
Wow there is so much more... Looking forward to the next Men Conference 1st May 2009. - My Birthday!
Grace and Peace 12:17 AM
Thursday, March 26, 2009?
2 days ago I saw this 2 students in uniform kissing and petting blatantly in the staircase!! I could see them very clearly standing at my balcony. OMG.... the time was bright day about 430pm!!! If want to pet at least pet it at night la or somewhere indoor... hotel? opps I forgot student have not much money. Crazy people... no shame at all :pThis few days have been staying at home and never go out of my house. Been listening to sermon, reading and watching Daystar TV online. Glad Daystar TV can watch online because every 1/2 hour there will be Christian TV from various minister. Kong Hee Harvest time is on every Monday 11am. While Joseph Prince is almost everyday! LOL. There is a lot of American minister too... too bad Singapore cannot have Christian TV. =(
Anyway I have finally finish my 2nd sermon after 2 months of preparation. Now doing my editing and some other stuff. Is good to be ready because SOT coming le...
I spoke to 1 of my best girl friend, Shu on Tuesday night. We had a long MSN chat. As I said before Shu, for the past few years, has been encouraging me and giving me some valuable life lesson. Really appreciate her effort. I share with her some of the relationship problem I face. To my surprise, she gave me comments that I never heard before and nobody had ever tell me such things before. So I am trying to follow what she say and will see how things work out. But I know it will be very harsh toward myself... anyway she share with me something that shock me... cannot say here is sensor!!
Grace and Peace 12:16 PM
Monday, March 23, 2009?
In life we hurt... Physically, Emotionally or Relationally.Relationally is the most difficult to deal with. Therefore we need to run to God.
Worry does not help. Time doesn't heal anything. Possessions never compensate for pain.
"Worrying or Disappointing" - Increase the size of pain. Resent will not change the present of the situation
HOW WE OVERCOME HURTS?
- Don't IGNORE the hurt
- Don't RUN from the hurt
- Don't HIDE the hurt
- Don't WORRY about the hurt
- Don't RESENT the hurt
- Don't GIVE UP
Grace and Peace 3:09 PM
Saturday, March 21, 2009?
Just now I went to help my mum buy 4D. Ya help my mum. Anyway when i was in the Q, I heard a small little girl shouting "ah ma zong ma piao" she kept on repeating and repeating. Her ahma like dun care about her. She was just busy inside writing her 4D. People around me were laughing including me. I really don't know to feel funny for the little girl or sad. Such a young girl already know what is 4D and wait for her ahma outside the 4D station where so many people are buying. If my mum in future, bring my kids to buy 4D I will turn very nasty. I am serious. OMG... I also wonder what other values the little girl parents and grandparents bring into her life!I was watching a bit of the service early on. Then I saw Meng How together with his wife and their girl Chloe on stage for a testimony. Hehe.. Chloe was my student before. I remember sharing on my blog that Chloe loves me a lot. Every Sunday, her ahma will bring her to Playgroup while her mummy will go service. Ya bring to playgroup not 4D shop!!!
How to know if you're in love?
I just finish this chapter and going to share the 12 test to see if you are in love with someone or just infatuation.
- The Test of Time - Love benefits and grows through time; infatuation ebbs and diminishes with time.
- The Test of Knowledge - Love grows out of an appraisal of all the known characteristics of the other person
- The Test of Focus - Genuine love is other-person centered. Infatuation is self-centered
- The Test of Singularity - Genuine love is focused on only one person. An infatuated individual may be "in love" with two or more persons simultaneously
- The Test of Security - Genuine love requires and fosters a sense of security and feelings of trust
- The Test of Work - An individual in love works for the other person, for his or her mutual benefit
- The Test of Problem Solving - A couple in love faces problems frankly and tries to solve them. Infatuated people tend to disregard or try to ignore problems
- The Test of Distance - Love knows the importance of distance. Infatuation imagines love to be intense closeness 24/7, all the time. (I experience this before. 3 mths in Paris!!!)
- The Test of Physical Attraction - Physical attraction is a relatively small part of genuine love, but it is the central focus of infatuation.
- The Test of Affection - In love affection is expressed later in the relationship, involving the external expression of the physical attraction we just described
- The Test of Stability - Love tends to endure. Infatuation may change suddenly and unpredictably.
- The Test of Delayed Gratification - A couple in genuine love is not different to the timing of their wedding, but they do not feel irresistible drive toward it
The story of Jacob and Rachel (Gen29:1-20)
Jacob was attracted to Rachel almost immediately. yet he had to work 7 years in order to marry Rachel. That's 5 years beyond the typical lifespan of infatuation. Do you think his love understood stability and delay gratification? The Bible says that the 7 years "seemed like only a few days." WHY? Because of his love for her. It was about something really worth waiting for. Hmm this is a very good lesson point for me. Will I consider the 2 years be only a few days? Only time will tell... if she is worth waiting for, then it will be only a few days...
Alright I shall sto and gonna have my dinner and prepare for my Tennis match. Cya tml in service! =)
Grace and Peace 5:33 PM
Thursday, March 19, 2009?
Went for Mark's 21st Birthday at Aranda Country club beside Downtown East. End up only 3 of his classmate went only. But his sec and outside friends was a lot so I guess he enjoy himself a lot. The food was ok ba.. I had 3 rounds of food.. LOL. Want to grow more bigger in size =)
Wanted to play Mahjong de. But Mark say his friend is in charge of it so I got to Q... haha nah can't be bother to play with them. They play 2:4. So small.... bored!!! I spent most of the time chatting with Teck Yong and Cherryn. Still wonder what am I going to do for my birthday.. hmmm
Grace and Peace 11:31 PM
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I was watching Channel 8 TV drama last night at 7pm. Inside there is 1 male character who was a movie director, he ask a female actress to be his girlfriend. So he give flower, drive her around and say some words to touch the woman's heart. But he succeeded. Then I wonder to myself, hmm seem familiar... cuz I have done almost identical ways. Anyway like what I mention b4, it is the "Hollywood" ways of a lasting relationship. I want the "God" ways of a lasting relationship which mean totally opposite way of approaching a relationship. In "Hollywood" ways, people tend to look at the attributes of physical then emotional then psychological then social lastly is spiritual. It is a good prescription that generally people use and have successful relationship. But I am a christian so I should use the prescription of God. In "God" way, I should be looking at the attributes of spiritual then social then psychological then emotional and lastly physical. I think my current situation should be in the prescription of God.Many of time I convince myself to accept the reality and move forward behave normally like a friend. My buddy also ask me why must I behave the way I behave. I told him Yi Yan Nan Jing.
I was flipping through the sermon of 2004 and 2005. It was many years back. I still kept it in good condition. Then I came across the sermon title 'Thinking with Excellence' It seem so familiar to me. Then I remember that Ps Tan preach this before last year. But what he never mention was the 7 characteristics of an Excellent person.
- Physically healthy
- Well groomed
- God's wisdom
- Knowledge
- Initiative
- Ability to serve
- Good communication skills.
Haha anyway I join my friend club - Bachelor club. He also about the same as me. Her ex's mother wants her daughter to wait for my friend to finish his NS before consider any relationship again. Gone case le la. Let use common sense. If a guy with a settle down career chasing her, will a woman give that guy a chance if she think things might just work out? Rather than waiting a poor and miserable guy serving the Army. In this world it is just so realistic. Face it REYES!!
Grace and Peace 11:14 AM
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Just finish my new blog skin. Have receive some feedback commenting it is nice. But there is some flaws if you guys notice. Wanted to post something but I leave that to tomorrow ba. Nite!
Grace and Peace 12:42 AM
Sunday, March 15, 2009?
I mean what is the big deal? Ya last night Liverpool beat Man Utd 4-1. I was really in a foul mood not because of Man Utd lost but because of seeing how arrogant Liverpool's fan was. I went to the pub last night and watch. The boss apparently was a liverpool fan. He offered all the Man Utd fan tissue to wipe of tears! What the crap! I told him thx u but we're still at the top! Then while walking to the train station, a group of Liverpool fan walk pass me and the shouted 4-1!! What is the big deal?? Is just so funny. I guess they have not experience such a result before therefore they need to show it off. Then I went home the facebook is all talking about the match. Liverpool here liverpool there. Whatever la. To dev and MF... haha to win a match does not mean you guys win the champion. In church we always say is not how you start but how you end. So I say again is not about a match only but is about the whole season. Man Utd has been very consistent in their game this season while Liverpool is not at all. Anyway we are 4 points ahead with a match in hand potentially we can go 7 points clear of you guys! So keep smelling Man Utd ass ba =)
Ethan was eating chicken wing just now. Haha I saw he don;t really know how to eat the meat in between the bone, so I decided to teach him. He follow my instruction and manage to grab out the meat using his teeth. Haha. Erin also eating chicken wing. I bluff her that Pastor Derek allow me to have the chicken wing and she believe LOL. I ask Ethan after his lunch come inside and help me clean up the room. He did come in. Haha.. such a great help. But Susan came inside the room. He told his mum he is helping me to clean the toys. Haha. I was quite stress so I told Ethan and Erin to go home already. Haha if not Susan got the wrong idea. She came all the way in and see what we are doing. Then I begin to approach and greet her. To my surprise she still remember I am CK. She thank me for all the gifts I bought for Ethan... hehe.. is my honor.
Grace and Peace 3:36 PM
Saturday, March 14, 2009?
A British man fed up with his wife's complaints advertised her for sale -- and got a number of offers. "Nagging Wife. No Tax, No MOT. Very high maintenance -- some rust," wrote Gary Bates, 38, in a small ad in Trade-It, more usually used to buy and sell cars or household goods.Hai.. at least he got someone to nag at him =(
Grace and Peace 1:46 AM
Thursday, March 12, 2009?
Recently my good buddy just broke off with his GF. It is due to lack of muture trust and also the GF's ex boyfriend. That girl kind of couldn't let go of his ex. Hai... we had a chat before his birthday on his relationship. I really feel sad for him. He did what every woman will want a man to do to them. I remember him doing all the craft work for her and design a very nice photo album . Once, he went to buy a ring for himself and the girl, but he have no money left yet he still want to buy because he simply loves her. All he got was this type of ending? I went to his birthday, that girl was around. She smile at me but I don't know why I gave her a very fake smile... I can sense my friend still really love her a lot although he claim he has move forward. That night when we have a very long chat in the void deck, I can sense he is still feeling very sad, if I am not around he would be crying ba. I wonder if I am in his shoes, how will I react?I can truly understand why people have difficulties letting go of their past and refuse to move forward. It is because the good memory always overshadow the bad memory and hurts. Do people know how God feels when he sees the pain, rejection and loneliness people experience in a broken relationships? I believe God weeps with compassion. But God doesn't simply stand idly by; He wants to help. He wants people to know He has a better way and a better plan for them and their relationship. There are many people who have been wounded deeply and limping through life from the pain in the past. But we are not alone. I admit for my case sometime I feel very sad and disappointed. But I cannot be so selfish and think for myself only. I need to consider the feeling of the one who is going through an aftermath of a broken relationship. Last week I folded 99 hearts in 3 nights. It was the first time I did such thing. Every heart that I fold was fill with prayer and love. Surprisingly, the more I fold the more I want to fold. It just keep going and going. I never feel tired at all. I guess this is the power of love.
I just bought 2 relationship books. I started reading 1 of it and the first chapter was very interesting. It talk about the world system on relationship. The author call it the 'Hollywood's formula on lasting relationship" Sometime I feel as badly as I yearn for love, I am deeply afraid that it will simply bring more pain. Why is there broken relationship? To start, ask yourself this question. Usually where people in general, get idea about relationship from? Their parents? their teacher? or from the culture they live in? I believe most people get the ideas from the culture they live in. I am 1 of them. When teenager reach a certain age, they begin to infatuated with the opposite sex. They fell in love with 1 another. They get this idea from magazine, television show, movie and pop songs. Therefore our hearts and minds have been filled with false ideas about love, sex and relationship are all about. The culture has been constantly giving us a definite prescription about love, sex and relationship are supposed to work. We spent countless time watching movie and listening love songs like me, and we sometime put our self into the storyline and lyrics. In our mind, we develop a 4 approach to a relationship. The author call it the "Hollywood's formula". The 1st is FIND THE RIGHT PERSON. Many of us have been constantly looking around who is the right person for us. The 2nd is FALL IN LOVE. We start to attract to them. By gesture and word are usually enough. We sing songs of love to them. The 3rd is FIX YOUR HOPES AND DREAMS ON THIS NEW, IMPROVED PERSON YOU HAVE FOUND. In the movies love vetoes every other decision. Hollywood equates infatuation with love. We spent hours in fantasies, imagining a perfect life with someone. Then the perfect partner turn out to have some flaws. She can't quite live up to our imagination. We start to blame 1 another. Last approach is IF FAILURE OCCUR, REPEAT 1 TO 3 AGAIN. How true is that? We always behave in some an approach. If we follow the world system of relationship, we will always have a series of pattern on a broken relationship that fails. We keep doing the same thing in relationship after relationship and it keeps producing the same tragic result.
The following chapter I have yet to read. I know whatever I say to many people might be rubbish because me myself have never really been into a relationship. So you may say who am I to say. Well... that is true, you are so right. I just want to learn from all of the mistake and to have an attitude of a great lover. I am trying very hard. All I want is to fall in love AND stay in love.
Trust God for the unexpected, and let him surprise you by doing the unexplainable.
Grace and Peace 1:39 AM
Monday, March 9, 2009?
I gave across this movie just a few hours ago before I watch it on the Internet. Then I remember seeing this DVD available at Attributes. So I decided to watch it. What I can say from this movie was to learn from the message the movie is trying to convey. There are 2 things I learn from this movie. Marriage and Forgiveness.
In a world where marriages are no longer considered sacred and, worse yet, being redefined by liberals as extending to unions between same-sex couples, the film’s Biblical message on marriage is timely. Kirk Cameron is Caleb Holt, the chief at a small fire station in Albany, Georgia. Married seven years to his wife, Catherine (played by Erin Bethea), the couple are experiencing problems in their marriage.Caleb feels he’s not getting the respect he deserves at home, something that, on the flip side, he enjoys plenty of at work. Catherine juggles work and worries about her parents, especially medical expenses for her mom who hasn’t been herself since suffering a stroke. Things come to a head when Caleb and Catherine agree to a divorce after a big fight. Upon learning of the impending separation, John (Caleb’s father) implores Caleb to hold off the divorce for 40 days while giving the advice he penned in a book The Love Dare a go. Caleb commits to the challenge. In the process, he also learns of Jesus Christ’s love for sinners like himself and becomes a Christian. From then on, we see a change in Caleb and a series of events leads to a happy ending where, finally, Caleb and Catherine call off the divorce and instead re-dedicate their commitment to each other under the light of the covenant that God intended marriage to be since creation.
Towards the end I teared. Because there was forgiveness and reconciliation between mother and son. Presence of God was in my room. Faith, Love and Hope... indeed the GREATEST is Love. In this movie not only we see about how to "fireproof" your marriage but also God's love for us which He died for us on the Cross so that we can receive salvation. The forgiveness of people just like how God forgive us again and again no matter how many time we have been wrong and sin against Him. God is sovereign towards us. His Agape love always available to us
Just recently someone told me that I should read books about love. Then I was saying I am not that interested after reading "boy meet girl" a few years back. But now I am convicted I really need to read some books on love so I can be educated with knowledge which give me power to have an attitude of a great lover to someone I really love. I need more creativity to express my love even more in terms of words and gifts. =)
Watch it guys...
Grace and Peace 6:04 PM
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Morning: I overslept this morning for my ministry. Manage to reach Expo church at 845am. It was fulfilling in serving today and will be serving next Sunday also. They really need me to be there hope my CG can understand my position. Ethan and Erin help me to keep the mat today... hehe he told many teacher who is around that his favourite teacher is teacher CK... wa he melts my heart. My dear boy.. but due to some circumstance cannot take pictures with him sob sob... nvm there will be chance again. =)Afternoon: Had an empowered ministry training with Glordia. I learn a lot but 1 thing I catch was how to use appropriate words or manner to communicate with the parents regard their kids. Indeed knowledge is power. Then after training, have a talk with Joann regard the service today. After that I went to Ming Wei's house to clean myself up for my friend party.
Evening: Went to Downtown East for my best buddy Andy, 21st birthday. Happy to see so many of his friends came and also family member. I got to see many of my ex school mates. Is really a good time together. Enjoy the fellowship with them. Not forgotten all the teasing and jokes that my bunch of buddy gave me hahaa... The next birthday among us is well.... me.
Night: Tired but... Sweet =)
Grace and Peace 12:06 AM
Saturday, March 7, 2009?
I came across this 22 signs on a website. I feel is quite true. All what we have see how the world is going for the past years... is horrifying. The first 4 seals is already happening and the 1st 4 trumpet has already blown... This brought me to the conclusion that Jesus is coming back real soon...1. World Evangelization
2. The 6,000 Years Of Mankind
3. Exponential Increase In Knowledge And Travel
4. The Automobile
5. The Aeroplane
6. The Endless Struggle Between The Powerful Rich And The Helpless Poor
7. The Parallel To Lot And Noah’s Generations
8. The Lawlessness Of Youth
9. False Christs And Prophets
10. Scoffers Who Are Apathetic
11. More Earthquakes
12. The Sea And Waves Roaring
13. Fearful Sights And Signs In The Sky
14. Widespread Fear
15. Restoration Of The Land Of Palestine
16. The Amazing Rebuilding Of Jerusalem
17. The Invincibility Of Israel
18. World Political Alliances
19. The Biblical Symbols Of The Dragon, The Eagle, The Bear And The Lion
20. Irreconcilable International Conflicts That Will Lead To World War 3
21. Nations In Perplexity
22. The Stark Reality Of The Probability Of World Destruction
Grace and Peace 1:13 PM
Sunday, March 1, 2009?
First of all Congrat to my good friend Hui Shan for her Baptism. Zaneta I should call her... haha but will never use to it. She brought her hospital colleague for service. I am honor to serve them and play a good host. Haha I had a great time talking with the whole family. Just nice the message was about relationship. Like what MF say I was engaging the people in the 3rd space lol... so funny. He is a senior doctor in 1 of the hospital and I think I did a great job in answering some of his doubt and question about the church. Haha.. I am able to answer in such a wisdom way. Hee thx God for Holy Spirit.. pat on my shoulder haha.. bleh. His daughter look shy lei.. haha trying to talk to her but the feeling she gave me was shy haha. At least she smile at me when say bye to me lol wa... doctor's daughter lei... free medical treatment for me... Reyes that is so wrong... haha no la I got 1 le and I am faithful... opps... :p
Finally Ps Derek is back from USA. Last week her maid to me lol... ya we are close. Then Pastor accept my Facebook request. The purpose is to view my boy pictures. He was so cute... I got to see some unseen photo and actions of my Boy. Ethan was very dramatic so do Erin and Erika. I thought I should not take those pictures and post in my blog... it seem so wrong ya I think so. Next week I gonna see them once again le... =)
Finally Ps Derek is back from USA. Last week her maid to me lol... ya we are close. Then Pastor accept my Facebook request. The purpose is to view my boy pictures. He was so cute... I got to see some unseen photo and actions of my Boy. Ethan was very dramatic so do Erin and Erika. I thought I should not take those pictures and post in my blog... it seem so wrong ya I think so. Next week I gonna see them once again le... =)
Grace and Peace 6:14 PM