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Thursday, March 12, 2009?
Recently my good buddy just broke off with his GF. It is due to lack of muture trust and also the GF's ex boyfriend. That girl kind of couldn't let go of his ex. Hai... we had a chat before his birthday on his relationship. I really feel sad for him. He did what every woman will want a man to do to them. I remember him doing all the craft work for her and design a very nice photo album . Once, he went to buy a ring for himself and the girl, but he have no money left yet he still want to buy because he simply loves her. All he got was this type of ending? I went to his birthday, that girl was around. She smile at me but I don't know why I gave her a very fake smile... I can sense my friend still really love her a lot although he claim he has move forward. That night when we have a very long chat in the void deck, I can sense he is still feeling very sad, if I am not around he would be crying ba. I wonder if I am in his shoes, how will I react?I can truly understand why people have difficulties letting go of their past and refuse to move forward. It is because the good memory always overshadow the bad memory and hurts. Do people know how God feels when he sees the pain, rejection and loneliness people experience in a broken relationships? I believe God weeps with compassion. But God doesn't simply stand idly by; He wants to help. He wants people to know He has a better way and a better plan for them and their relationship. There are many people who have been wounded deeply and limping through life from the pain in the past. But we are not alone. I admit for my case sometime I feel very sad and disappointed. But I cannot be so selfish and think for myself only. I need to consider the feeling of the one who is going through an aftermath of a broken relationship. Last week I folded 99 hearts in 3 nights. It was the first time I did such thing. Every heart that I fold was fill with prayer and love. Surprisingly, the more I fold the more I want to fold. It just keep going and going. I never feel tired at all. I guess this is the power of love.
I just bought 2 relationship books. I started reading 1 of it and the first chapter was very interesting. It talk about the world system on relationship. The author call it the 'Hollywood's formula on lasting relationship" Sometime I feel as badly as I yearn for love, I am deeply afraid that it will simply bring more pain. Why is there broken relationship? To start, ask yourself this question. Usually where people in general, get idea about relationship from? Their parents? their teacher? or from the culture they live in? I believe most people get the ideas from the culture they live in. I am 1 of them. When teenager reach a certain age, they begin to infatuated with the opposite sex. They fell in love with 1 another. They get this idea from magazine, television show, movie and pop songs. Therefore our hearts and minds have been filled with false ideas about love, sex and relationship are all about. The culture has been constantly giving us a definite prescription about love, sex and relationship are supposed to work. We spent countless time watching movie and listening love songs like me, and we sometime put our self into the storyline and lyrics. In our mind, we develop a 4 approach to a relationship. The author call it the "Hollywood's formula". The 1st is FIND THE RIGHT PERSON. Many of us have been constantly looking around who is the right person for us. The 2nd is FALL IN LOVE. We start to attract to them. By gesture and word are usually enough. We sing songs of love to them. The 3rd is FIX YOUR HOPES AND DREAMS ON THIS NEW, IMPROVED PERSON YOU HAVE FOUND. In the movies love vetoes every other decision. Hollywood equates infatuation with love. We spent hours in fantasies, imagining a perfect life with someone. Then the perfect partner turn out to have some flaws. She can't quite live up to our imagination. We start to blame 1 another. Last approach is IF FAILURE OCCUR, REPEAT 1 TO 3 AGAIN. How true is that? We always behave in some an approach. If we follow the world system of relationship, we will always have a series of pattern on a broken relationship that fails. We keep doing the same thing in relationship after relationship and it keeps producing the same tragic result.
The following chapter I have yet to read. I know whatever I say to many people might be rubbish because me myself have never really been into a relationship. So you may say who am I to say. Well... that is true, you are so right. I just want to learn from all of the mistake and to have an attitude of a great lover. I am trying very hard. All I want is to fall in love AND stay in love.
Trust God for the unexpected, and let him surprise you by doing the unexplainable.
Grace and Peace 1:39 AM